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How To Avoid Really Bad Dates

Written by Emily on Feb 9th 2016

Ever been on a date with someone who bored you so much that you actually considered sticking a fork in your own eye, just as a form of entertainment? Well I hear ya sister! Been there, done that.

Here’s the thing about dating. There are strategies which I have honed over the years which can reduce the chances of dating an absolute w@nker, but every now and then, one slips through the net. As a single woman, you need to be prepared for this to happen and have the tools in place to get out gracefully. Otherwise you might find yourself setting Mr Tedious on fire or, even worse, you could find yourself on a second (pity) date the following week.

Let me illustrate with a couple of client stories.

Firstly, there’s (**fake name alert**) Hannah. Before Hannah began working with me, she had an online dating profile that frankly, was always going to end in disaster. She shared too much, her photo selection was dire and on the whole, her profile didn’t reflect who she really is. Nor did she have any selection strategy in place. Sure she’d picked her age bracket, height and all the other algorithms that dating sites boast, but as soon as a vaguely attractive guy messaged her, she’d agree to a date. This my friend, is not a good strategy.

Hannah got a lovely, complementary and funny (tick, tick, tick) message from a guy called Dave. Dave was good looking, had a great job and seemed to be a legitimately good guy. So she agreed to meet him for a movie and dinner. (Way too much for a first date with a stranger fyi. Anyhow, not the point right now.)

Hannah arrived in good time to the movie theatre and spotted Dave queuing for tickets. As she approached she scanned his appearance… So far, all good. He hadn’t lied about his height. His profile picture was up to date (i.e. he still had his hair and hadn’t put on 20kg) and he was dressed well. But when she kissed him on the cheek, she caught a whiff of something unpleasant. Yup. Dave had halitosis and either didn’t know about it or didn’t care enough to do anything about it. So not cool Dave!

So scarred was Hannah, that after enduring both the movie (which was sh!t) and dinner (by this point she wanted to stick breadsticks up her nostrils) she went straight home and deleted all of her online dating profiles, thus cutting off a great resource for finding men. When Dave called her the next morning, Hannah pleaded with her sister to answer and tell Dave that she was dead. Her sister refused. Hannah changed her number.

Now let’s look at what happened to (**fake name alert**) Suzie. Suzie’s work colleague set her up on a blind date with a guy called Stuart. When Suzie arrived at the bar, she was relieved to see that Stuart was reasonably good looking. Unfortunately, he was as boring as sin. But he was also kind (in a sad puppy kind of way) and frankly, Suzie felt a bit sorry for him. So when he asked her out again, she said yes even though watching her fake tan dry would have been a more interesting way to spend an evening. She went on 3 pity dates with him before also, changing her number. As it turned out, Suzie was a serial pity dater. What a waste of her (and his) time.

Having had enough of truly shocking dates, both Hannah and Suzie enrolled in my Prime Partner Pyramid program.

Hannah learnt how to date successfully online (I even help you with your profile). You’ll be pleased to know that she found a boyfriend through a dating website and he has such minty fresh breath that he could be a Colgate representative.

Through the Prime Partner Pyramid program, Suzie managed to break her unhealthy pity patterns and found that once we had shifted some limiting beliefs that she harboured around worth and relationships, she was free to have amazing dates with amazing guys that didn’t talk about model steam trains throughout an entire 3 course meal. Result! She also used my awesome “Call me maybe” resource which gives you lots of responses which you can copy and paste when you need to let a guy down. It can be tough to compose a message with the right tone (you don’t want to see him again but you don’t want to be a bitch about it, right!) so feel free to use some of the examples in my Call Me Maybe resource which you can DOWNLOAD FOR FREE HERE.

If you’d like to know more about my Prime Partner Pyramid program then get in touch at and as always, feel free to like, comment or share this blog.

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